Independence within Relationships

Aug 03, 2020

Starting a new relationship, whether it be a friendship or a romantic partnership, can always be an interesting experience. From the new memories, inside jokes, and no annoying habits, these new relationships seem like a breath of fresh air because no wrong can come from the beginning stages of something new. It is new and exciting, so you always want to put your best foot forward, but how does that leave time for you to self-reflect?


One tip I have is to follow your calendar or agenda, which can be on paper or mental, because it lets you see what you realistically have time for and will leave you feeling less swamped. Being social is important and is definitely essential for feeling satisfied, even as an introvert. It is totally okay to want to keep to yourself, but at one point or another, we need to be able to interact with like-minded individuals who make us happy.

At one point or another we all share the same habit of prioritizing new relationships over our own work and self-care, so this is a great way to have the best of both worlds by keeping yourself on top of your work and keeping yourself social.

Self-care Days

Another way to stay organized and social at the same time is to dedicate one or two days to you and only you! I recommend one day a week and one day on the weekend for maximum satisfaction, but no matter what days work best for you, this is a surefire way to let yourself relax and stay centered.

A lot of times life never stops and so we always have to go-go-go and be on our A game, but sometimes we feel need to just relax. This definitely does the trick because taking time for yourself allows you to be you without the need to act or pretend for anyone else.

Taking it Week by Week

I know that planning ahead is a great way to stay on top of everything you have and want to do, except when we forget about plans and make new ones on the same day leaving us with the need to reschedule or be double booked, which isn’t the worst thing in the world, but it definitely makes your schedule tighter than it needs to be.

Planning week by week, with the exception of events that need to be planned in advance, is a great way to keep plans relevant and allows you to see what you have time for, which is a great way to plan because it keeps all your plans possible without you having no time for school, work, etc.

Obviously, this is easier said than done because life moves faster than we expect sometimes, but I would highly recommend trying it out. Not only does this keep your week with some wiggle room, which is always needed, but it lets you have more time to focus on you.

Being social is great and spending time with those who make you happy is something which is taken for granted far too often. We sometimes feel so burnt out that we don’t realize that we need the time for ourselves to recharge our energy and reconnect with our raw emotions, and these tips and tricks are sure to do the trick.

As always, I hope you find these tips and tricks useful and that you all are staying healthy and safe.



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Hi! My name is Maya Leah, I am a twenty year old theatre student at Queen's University. I am a Netflix binger, bruncher, and Jesse Eisenberg obsesser who enjoys curling up with a good book...

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