Living with anxiety independently or in a relationship can come with an abundance of challenges of all shapes and sizes. From something as simple as worrying about not having enough wine for your guests or something more on the serious side, as in your partner ignoring your texts, but no matter the severity, the pain is all the same.
But it doesn’t mean that you (or your partner) need to go through your relationship being anxious 24/7. You (two) deserve to enjoy your time together and appreciate your love for each other when you two apart, so, without further-a-do, here are some ways to deal with anxiety when in a relationship.
This is (obvi) easier said than done, but it doesn’t mean it isn’t worth a shot. Take the time to write an outline or a few bullet points to help clarify your thoughts, so when both of you are available, you have a roadmap to help you with what to say and how to say it. Make sure that you say what’s on your mind when you’re ready, there is no rush when it comes to being vulnerable, as it’s something that takes time to warm up too.
I find this a useful method for a lot of reasons, but the main one being that it helps to put everything in a new perspective. Sometimes people who don’t have major (episodes of) anxiety, or panic attacks, can forget to understand where we are coming from, which doesn’t come with any shame, but just patience for understanding.
The more we communicate about anxiety, when our time is right, the more we give the opportunity to educate others, especially those close to us. Sometimes we have a habit of relying on small talk to break tension and keep things light, which works in hindsight, but the truth is that communication is key.
Sometimes communicating can be scary, and this is true for everybody, so make sure that you do this in a place comfortable for you. It can be a local coffee shop, a chain restaurant, or a bar of your choosing, but no matter where the talk is held, the main goal is that you feel comfortable to communicate.
As always, stay healthy and safe.
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